"I just… I don't know who I'd be if we stopped arguing."

What it would look like if your ex actually went to therapy. 😶

This one is darker than it looks. For some people, conflict isn't just a symptom — it's a structure. It's how they know the relationship still exists. It's how they maintain connection, even a painful one. The argument is still a form of contact.

Therapy has a way of surfacing that. And for some, the idea of a truly peaceful coparenting relationship is more disorienting than they expected — because then what?

Peace is a skill. And it has to be chosen, often over and over again.